A Drink of Dad

This week I thought about some dads who are challenged to stay engaged with their children. I thought about dads experiencing Prom night, driving lessons, moving to middle school and high school next fall and sending their kids away to camps this summer. I am reminded of my thoughts in Be There Dad about our…

The Future Ain’t What It Used to Be

In the past few weeks many of us have been entertained by some excellent golf including The Masters and the RBC Heritage.  When I watch, I am most impressed by the way the accomplished golfers “manage” the golf course. Collaborating with their caddies they have a vision and strategy for navigating each hole. Begin with…

My Fair Share

A long-time Be There Dad shared with me a quote attributed to Muhammed Ali. It says, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.” An extension of “Love your neighbor,” it provides a framework for our obligations as dads.  We are all called to serve each other. So, I…

Values. The Rest Will Follow

This year most of us are watching intently as politicians seek election to office.  Adults have the privilege of choosing who will represent us in places like Washington, DC and Raleigh, so now is a unique time to teach our children. In our democracy that privilege of voting and making other decisions assumes that people…

Just One Thing

Recently there has been a rise in “hatefulness” in our country.  Much of it starts when folks just look at others and see differences.  These circumstances reminded me of an article we shared two years ago. Lots to Do It was a typical Saturday morning. Knowing I had lots of chores to do, I neither…

Illumination, Wisdom and Accompaniment

In his new book, How to Know A Person, David Brooks explores how we truly get to know a person and establish a relationship. As I read it, I realized that his conclusions are consistent with the Be There Dad approach to engaging and building relationships with our children.  Joined with Be There Dad notions,…

What Does Your Daddy Do?

As we dads continue to reflect on the ways we can engage with our children, in order to truly connect with them, it is best to understand how they view us,   We should consider how we can best fulfill their expectations.  What is important to them?  We can ask, “What does their daddy do?”  The…

My Little Boy’s Dad

Time to Reflect At the end of the year, as we look forward to the next, I am reminded of the recommendation of Joe Ehrmann, former NFL player, author, pastor and coach. He tells us that men should take more time to reflect on their lives. He encourages us to regularly take inventory of who…

Everything We Need

My “Backpack” For years I carried a bag to every soccer and basketball practice and game. A blue duffle, it held everything I might need to be the best coach I could be. My water bottle and an extra for the player who forgot theirs. A bag of Tootsie Pops. Practice plan, game line ups…