Jeff Usher is Be There Dad. He became known as “Coach Jeff” during his 15 years of coaching soccer and basketball in a faith-based recreational league, teaching Sunday school and leading other child focused activities. Jeff is the founder of Be There Dad and the author of two books, Be There Dad and Take Them by the Hand. While he works as a lawyer to make a living; supporting children by leading and guiding their dads has become his passion in life. He has been happily married for over 30 years and has two grown children.

In Every Story There’s a Lesson

Like some 50 million other Americans, I watched the recent Presidential debate. In the days that have followed, people have asked me my opinion about the event.  Scores of others including professional pundits and commentators have expressed their opinions. Some have provided analysis. Some have predicted the outcome of the election already based on this…

Windows Of Our World

I am not an artist. I do not have a significant knowledge of art or its history. So, when we visited the North Carolina Museum of Art, I thought maybe I would just enjoy the “view”.  While I certainly enjoyed the exhibits for their beauty, I was enlightened by the stories they told. The museum…

Every New Beginning

This month I had the opportunity to attend the high school graduation of my nephew. The son of my younger brother and the youngest grandchild of my parents. We travelled out of state to gather with family to show our support and recognize that our presence is the most important gift we can give. As…

A Drink of Dad

This week I thought about some dads who are challenged to stay engaged with their children. I thought about dads experiencing Prom night, driving lessons, moving to middle school and high school next fall and sending their kids away to camps this summer. I am reminded of my thoughts in Be There Dad about our…

The Future Ain’t What It Used to Be

In the past few weeks many of us have been entertained by some excellent golf including The Masters and the RBC Heritage.  When I watch, I am most impressed by the way the accomplished golfers “manage” the golf course. Collaborating with their caddies they have a vision and strategy for navigating each hole. Begin with…

My Fair Share

A long-time Be There Dad shared with me a quote attributed to Muhammed Ali. It says, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.” An extension of “Love your neighbor,” it provides a framework for our obligations as dads.  We are all called to serve each other. So, I…

Values. The Rest Will Follow

This year most of us are watching intently as politicians seek election to office.  Adults have the privilege of choosing who will represent us in places like Washington, DC and Raleigh, so now is a unique time to teach our children. In our democracy that privilege of voting and making other decisions assumes that people…

Just One Thing

Recently there has been a rise in “hatefulness” in our country.  Much of it starts when folks just look at others and see differences.  These circumstances reminded me of an article we shared two years ago. Lots to Do It was a typical Saturday morning. Knowing I had lots of chores to do, I neither…

Illumination, Wisdom and Accompaniment

In his new book, How to Know A Person, David Brooks explores how we truly get to know a person and establish a relationship. As I read it, I realized that his conclusions are consistent with the Be There Dad approach to engaging and building relationships with our children.  Joined with Be There Dad notions,…