Jeff Usher is Be There Dad. He became known as “Coach Jeff” during his 15 years of coaching soccer and basketball in a faith-based recreational league, teaching Sunday school and leading other child focused activities. Jeff is the founder of Be There Dad and the author of two books, Be There Dad and Take Them by the Hand. While he works as a lawyer to make a living; supporting children by leading and guiding their dads has become his passion in life. He has been happily married for over 30 years and has two grown children.

The Voice

I Still Hear It I am 67 years old. I have a good education and lots of life experience; yet, still whenever I sit down to write an article like this, whenever I speak in front of an audience, whenever I need to make a decision or try to solve a problem, I hear a…

Lessons from The Sandlot

  Social scientists tell us that allowing our children to go out and play among themselves helps them to develop some skills we hope they will use as adults such as ingenuity, conflict resolution and relationship building; as well as develop character traits like acceptance, loyalty and integrity.   On a recent evening I had…

If I Could Do One Thing

It was a typical Saturday morning. Knowing I had lots of chores to do, I neither showered nor shaved. I dressed in my “grubbies” – sporting a faded warm-up with a few well-earned holes – in anticipation of the dirt and sweat I would collect throughout the day. Part of my outfit was my beloved…

Knowing the Way

A Sense of Purpose Recently, I watched a PBS concert tribute to Harry Chapin, a wonderfully gifted  singer/songwriter and even greater humanitarian in the 1970s. In addition to having popular songs at the top of the charts, Harry received the prestigious Congressional Gold Medal * for his efforts to combat world hunger. Harry explained his…

Telling the Truth

Telling the Truth As a young boy, the thing I remember my parents emphasizing the most was to always tell the truth. We all heard the story about George Washington and the cherry tree along with tales of other persons of honorable character. The moral was always “tell the truth”.  I suppose, like many children,…

Defining Reality

Everyday each of us is confronted with decisions. Opportunities to move forward or not. Some decisions are large, some are small. Do my exercises or not? Practice my piano lesson or not? Salad or French fries with my burger? Wear a mask or not? Reach out to someone new or not? Love my neighbor? Push…

Treasures from Heaven

Throughout my life, my mother was one of my biggest fans and supporters. During the last decade, she has been the most spirited supporter of Be There Dad. She has distributed our books and told more people about our organization than most folks.  For all its years, she praised Be There Dad for our vision,…

Sharing the Light

A Ritual of Hope For years on Christmas Eve at my home church, a ritual of hope took place.  Near the end of the worship service, our Pastor stood at the Chancel with a single lighted candle. Two ushers came forward and lit their candles from his. As the congregation began singing the age-old lyrics…

Courage To Be Uncomfortable

In this season of “comfort and joy”, I wonder how discomfort can also bring joy. If one definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result; then, I wonder if sanity must be doing things differently in order to achieve a desired result. No Pain, No Gain In…

The Answer is Up to Us

The Answer is Up to Us At Be There Dad, we have always stressed the importance of role models. Part of our mission has been to have men present in schools and elsewhere, so children can see them and emulate their positive attributes. Rules for Success Last week I watched the funeral of General Colin…