Jeff Usher is Be There Dad. He became known as “Coach Jeff” during his 15 years of coaching soccer and basketball in a faith-based recreational league, teaching Sunday school and leading other child focused activities. Jeff is the founder of Be There Dad and the author of two books, Be There Dad and Take Them by the Hand. While he works as a lawyer to make a living; supporting children by leading and guiding their dads has become his passion in life. He has been happily married for over 30 years and has two grown children.

What Does Your Daddy Do?

As we dads continue to reflect on the ways we can engage with our children, in order to truly connect with them, it is best to understand how they view us,   We should consider how we can best fulfill their expectations.  What is important to them?  We can ask, “What does their daddy do?”  The…

My Little Boy’s Dad

Time to Reflect At the end of the year, as we look forward to the next, I am reminded of the recommendation of Joe Ehrmann, former NFL player, author, pastor and coach. He tells us that men should take more time to reflect on their lives. He encourages us to regularly take inventory of who…

Everything We Need

My “Backpack” For years I carried a bag to every soccer and basketball practice and game. A blue duffle, it held everything I might need to be the best coach I could be. My water bottle and an extra for the player who forgot theirs. A bag of Tootsie Pops. Practice plan, game line ups…

Why Not?

I was already in an optimistic mood eating my Honey Nut Cheerios to hopefully lower my cholesterol when the broadcast of the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade started. One of the celebrity participants was interviewed and asked, “What do you like about the parade?” He responded, “It is about families coming out together, people gathering from…

We Just Don’t Do That

This past summer, someone in New Jersey used technology [probably AI] to create pornographic images combining the bodies of nude women with the faces of underaged female students in a local high school. Unfortunately,  then the images were distributed using social media. It is suspected that teenage boys who are classmates of the girls created…

True Colors

Recently a local school district banned a book apparently based on the fear that it violates the state Parents Bill of Rights. The book is entitled Red: A Crayon’s Story. This picture book is about a crayon with a red label who can only color blue; so it struggles with its identity. As the story…

Beautification Day – A Tradition

My First Lesson Almost a decade ago on a sunny Saturday morning, I stood at an old wooden privacy fence liberally applying yellow paint to boards that hadn’t felt a paint brush in many, many years. Next to me were two middle school aged girl volunteers doing the same.  As we worked, the music of…

Kindness

Since the war in Ukraine began, thousands of refugees have left the country to find safety – especially for their children – from the horrors of the war. Most of us have seen the media coverage of mothers and children crossing the borders to places like Poland which have provided them safe sanctuary. Last week…

Good Neighbors; Good Friends

The alarm rang at 3 am. I rolled out of bed on my way to take my neighbors to the airport. A retired couple and longtime friends, they were headed for a flight then a once-in-a-lifetime cruise in Alaska. We loaded their suitcases in my SUV and I delivered them to the departure lane. I…